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    what else don’t I know?

    By heather | July 11, 2008

    Last night, I noticed that Alex’s fingernails were longer than mine.  With OCD style laser focus, I decided that they needed to be cut.  RIGHTNOWNOWNOW.

    It’s not that I was noticing for the first time or that I’m too lazy to keep up good grooming.  It’s become a ritual dreaded by all because Alex has taken against having his fingernails cut.

    (Apparently only by me, because a few months ago I was reduced to tears of parental failure when I picked him up from daycare and Miss S told me that he sat there with fingers extended while she did it.  Bugger.)

    For months now, nail clipping has been a power struggle that I’ve always lost. 

    (Except when Alex’s finger got accidentally nicked by the clippers – pretty sure he lost that round.)

    So they grow…longer and sharper and raggedy until his pinky could pass for a coke nail and the rest could get a french manicure.

    Last night I bribed him.  With potato chips no less.  After a less than stellar dinner performance, where he consumed…blueberries.  And blueberries.


    You’ve been holding out on me, other mothers.  Bribery – the secret of calm and successful parenting!

    (Maybe I didn’t get it because everyone else tries to be all parentally correct about it and call it a “reward system”…it’s a bribe and I’m not ashamed to say so.)

    This was a turning point in our relationship, and not just in clipping nails - until now reasoning, cajoling, and distracting was pretty much all that existed in my bag of tricks for everything from bathtime to strapping into the shopping cart.

    Except for a little nagging guilt about over-processed empty calories and fat kids, we both came away happy and well groomed.  I’m already imagining the possibilities…

    Topics: toddler stuff | 7 Comments »


    7 Responses to “what else don’t I know?”

    1. Jill Says:
      July 11th, 2008 at 1:48 pm

      We are in exactly the same boat. I found that ice cream on a stick works. Natalie eats an entire one while I do her nails (she casually eats with one hand while I work on the other.) It takes her just long enough to finish it that I can do her toes too. :)

    2. Vicki Says:
      July 11th, 2008 at 2:23 pm

      Ok, Mommy Know-It-All stepping in here: it’s a bribe if you’re “paying” them for good behavior. It’s a reward if you’re “paying” them for a learned skill. You could technically call getting your nails cut by someone else a learned skill…I guess… :) In the end, it’s whatever works.

      Vicki’s last blog post..I’m One of the Lucky Ones – iPhone 3G

    3. Steph Says:
      July 11th, 2008 at 2:47 pm

      You do what you have to do.
      My bribery is lollipops, I swear his teeth will rot out soon. Funny how you can’t get them to eat, but when any junk food is suggested they will eat that.

    4. cody Says:
      July 11th, 2008 at 3:06 pm

      I define a reward as coming after the nail nipping and a bribe as coming during the nail nipping.

      I’m embarrassed to admit that in 8 years I’ve never once clipped a child’s nail. That’s a high pressure job that I leave to a stronger candidate.

      I have been on the business end of those sharp little nails, though. Ouch!

      cody’s last blog post..Five O’Clock Angel

    5. rimarama Says:
      July 11th, 2008 at 5:10 pm

      I have never cut either of my childrens’ finger or toenails. (But it’s not like they can climb trees with ‘em or anything like that – the P-Dawg does it for me and has since the day each of them was born.)

      I’m lucky, I know this.

      rimarama’s last blog post..Like Joan and Melissa Rivers, Only Better

    6. bucketful of blues « collecting tokens Says:
      July 13th, 2008 at 1:26 am

      [...] Phoebe has blueberry eyes. ——————— ¹ I saw her during Phoebe’s recent assessment for early intervention services. I’ll hopefully write about that soon. The short story (so as not to leave you hanging) is she has been receiving services, but no longer qualifies. ² Also known as bribery. [...]

    7. skiplovey Says:
      July 14th, 2008 at 1:31 am

      dude I can’t wait until my kid is old enough to bribed, er understand the reward system. And hey, what’s a few empty calories here or there? Nothing! and what is piece of mind? Priceless!

      skiplovey’s last blog post..What the hell is a 187 anyway?*


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