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By: alejna

alejna — Tue, 14 Jul 2009 01:43:23 +0000

Oh, wow, that sounds rough. Holly's advice sounds good to me. Has there been any progress? And yeah, we have some friends whose parenting ideas don't entirely mesh with ours. But happily, we don't see them too often. And luckily, the kids aren't actually bullies. (Just prone to tantrums to get what they want. Because they have learned that tantrums get them what they want. Ugh.) (I hadn't realized how behind I am in my blog reading. I see this is 2 weeks old! Sorry!) alejna's last blog post..The June Just Posts

By: Holly

Holly — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 02:22:23 +0000

I feel you!!!

We have good friends who are wonderful people… but are HORRIBLE parents. Your situation? Absolutely been there, almost word for word.

The issue is not the child, not at this young age, it is how that child is being taught. You can deal with that by 1. stepping in and talking to the child yourself; 2. talking to the parent; or 3. (this is what I would suggest) bringing it up with the caregiver.

It is endlessly frustrating. Benefit of the doubt is that Mom of said Child is way over her head, doesn’t know what to do, and might appreciate some help and the chance to apologize and step in… but YOU shouldn’t necessarily be the one to do this. The caregiver SHOULD. If this child is disruptive to her center, then it’s her responsibility to step in and work with the parents of the difficult child. Maybe the child has undiagnosed needs? Maybe the parents need some help from a developmental psychologist? What you don’t want to do is stigmatize a kid as a bully for acting out in ways that aren’t abnormal for a child his age… the idea is to figure out what’s wrong that he’s choosing that way to act. That should be the caregiver’s interest.

Or, at least, this is how we worked it out… the levels got deeper and I’m happy to vent with you on this… I can remember being RED HOT a few times!!!

Holly’s last blog post..Will’s life as a big brother defined.

By: Steph

Steph — Tue, 30 Jun 2009 01:27:42 +0000

Oh no he didn’t…well we talked about this over the weekend. I think you should talk to Miss S and tell her your concerns. Give her a chance to try to resolve the situation…but make sure to tell her that you are seeing this other kids behaviors in Alex and that if it doesn’t get better you might be forced to pull them out. And who the F would touch that precious EK..she is delicous. My heart is breaking for you, but do what your gut tells you. And if you do get ballsy enough, talk to the Mom too. It gets interesting when things involve your kids because the mother lion comes out and people better watch out.